Charles Hodge, a year after his wife died, wrote a letter to his brother, Hugh, when he lost a son to death. This is a portion of what he wrote to urge his brother on to pious sorrow, not the melancholy of bitterness and depression,
“Pious sorrow, that is sorrow mingled with pious feeling, with resignation, confidence in God, hope in his mercy and love, is [in] every way healthful to the soul; while melancholy is irreligious, and is a cancer to true peace and spiritual health. The great means of having our sorrow kept pure is to keep near to God, to feel assured of his love, that he orders all things well, and will make even our afflictions work out for us a far more exceeding and an eternal weight of glory.”
Amen, and amen.