21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; 22 and the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. 23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. 24Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. 25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. – Genesis 2:21-25
This is Part Two of a little blog series looking at the question: Why would God create Eve from Adam, rather than forming her from the dust of the earth? You can read Part One, here. This post necessitates the first in the series, so you should really read it.
One of the more obvious reasons God decided to do this is to show the real one flesh union between a husband and wife. It is not as though Adam was made from dust and Eve was made from dust and they bumped into each other one day int he Garden, but that Eve came from Adam. She is made to be his helpmeet. She was made specifically for him.
After God formed Eve from Adam we are told that God brought Eve to the man. Here we have the first wedding ceremony. God the Father takes His daughter and entrusts her to Adam. And to seal the covenant oath in ceremony we receive the first recorded words of mankind “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman because she was taken out of man” (Genesis 2:22-23). In marriage, man and woman, are one flesh, uniquely crafted for one another (see also Matthew 19:1-6 and 1 Corinthians 6:16). Husbands, also notice that the first words Adam spoke to Eve were lines of poetry!
The Apostle Paul extrapolates Genesis 2 in Ephesians 5:28-33,
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30 for we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
This means that a husband ought to be as attentive to his wife as he is to himself, and I would argue more attentive to her than to himself. The command to husbands, from the Scriptures, is to love your wives as Christ loves the church. This means that husbands are to do what Christ does: lead, serve, protect, and sacrifice.
Husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church because your wife is not simply yours, she is you. Say it with me husbands, “She is not simply mine, she is me.”